Friday, July 24, 2009

A Beautiful Hadith

A Beautiful Hadith

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said: 'When a man dies and his relatives are busy in funeral, there stands an extremely handsome man by his head. When the dead body is shrouded, that man gets in between the shroud and the chest of the deceased.

When after the burial, the people return home, 2 angels, Munkar and Nakeer(names of two special Angels), come in the grave and try to separate this handsome man so that they may be able to interrogate the dead man in privacy about his faith. But the handsome man says, 'He is my companion, he is my friend. I will not leave him alone in any case. If you are appointed for interrogation, do your job. I cannot leave him until I get him admitted into Paradise '.

Thereafter he turns to his dead companion and says, 'I am the Qur'an, which you used to read, sometimes in a loud voice and sometimes in a low voice. Do not worry. After the interrogation of Munkar and Naker, you will have no grief.'

When the interrogation is over, the handsome man arranges for him from Al-Mala'ul A'laa (the angels in Heaven) silk bedding filled with musk.

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said: 'On the Day of Judgement, before Allah, no other Intercessor will have a greater status than the Qur'an, neither a Prophet nor an angel.'

Please keep forwarding this 'Hadith' to all because Rasulullah (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) said:

'Pass on knowledge from me even if it is only one verse'.

May Allah bestow this favor on all of us.

AMEEN


Assalamu Alaikum

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SAYINGS (HADITH) OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD (Sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam)

The one who disdains prayers (Salat) will receive Fifteen punishments from
Allah

Six punishments in this lifetime
Three while dying
Three in the grave &
Three on the Day of Judgment.

THE SIX PUNISHMENTS OF LIFE

1. Allah takes away blessings from his age (makes his life misfortunate)
2. Allah does not accept his plea (Dua's)
3. Allah erases the features of good people from his face.
4. He will be detested by all creatures on earth.
5. Allah does not reward him for his good deeds. (No thawab)
6. He will not be included in the Dua's of good people.

THE THREE PUNISHMENTS WHILE DYING

1. He dies humiliated.
2. He dies hungry.
3. He dies thirsty. Even if he drinks the water of all seas he will still be thirsty.

THE THREE PUNISHMENTS IN THE GRAVE

1. Allah tightens his grave until his chest ribs come over each other.
2. Allah pours on him fire with embers.
3. Allah sets on him a snake called 'the brave', 'the bold' which hits him from morning until afternoon for leaving Fajr prayer, from the afternoon until Asr for leaving Dhuhr prayer and so on. With each strike he sinks 70 yards under the ground.

THE THREE PUNISHMENTS ON THE DAY OF JUDGMENT

1. Allah sends who would accompany him to hell pulling him on the face.
2. Allah gives him an angry look that makes the flesh of his face fall down..
3. Allah judges him strictly and orders him to be thrown in hell.

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THOSE WHO DO NOT SAY THEIR PRAYERS OF

FAJR : the glow of their face is taken away.
ZUHR : the blessing of their income is taken away.
ASR : the strength of their body is taken away.
MAGHRIB : they are not benefited by their children.
'ISHA : the peace of their sleep is taken away.

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THE HOLY QUR'AN:
'Say Your Prayers Before Prayers For You Are Said'.

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AGGRESSIVENESS

AGGRESSIVENESS

Taking the Menace Out of Dennis

Many children go through a period--between the ages of two and four--when hitting, kicking and biting are forms of communication, often their only way of saying, ''I'm angry'' or ''I want that.'' Without the language or social skills to get what they want, they're likely to express their frustration with flying fists or sharp baby teeth.

Although it's a normal developmental stage, aggression can become a way of life. Kids who don't learn to replace their violent eruptions with more civilized behavior, such as sharing, turn-taking and verbal negotiating, often go on to become full-time bullies, says James Bozigar, a licensed social worker and coordinator of community relations for the Family Intervention Center at Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh. Fighting gets them the things they want but makes them feared and unpopular.

If your child is going through this phase, he'll probably get over it before long. But just to nudge his progress a bit (and help protect others!), here are a few techniques to help your child curb his aggressive tendencies.

Love that victim. If you witness your preschool child striking another, make your first move toward his victim, advises pediatrician Robert Mendelson, M.D., clinical professor of pediatrics at Oregon Health Sciences University in Portland. ''Pick up the victim. Say, 'Jimmy didn't mean to hurt you.' Give the victim a big hug and kiss and take him out of the room.''

What you are doing is depriving your child of attention, a playmate and you, all at the same time. Suddenly, his fun is gone and he's alone. ''It usually doesn't take more than two or three responses like that until the aggressor realizes that being the aggressor isn't in his best interest,'' says Dr. Mendelson.

Lay down the law. Early on, get your toddler used to the idea of rules. ''Just say, ' We don't hit, we don't hurt,' '' says Lottie Mendelson, R.N., a pediatric nurse practitioner in Portland, Oregon, and coauthor of The Complete Book of Parenting, with her husband, Robert. With children aged four and over, the law can be a little more detailed. '' You can say, 'In our house, the rule is: If you want a toy, you ask for it, and if the person doesn't give it to you, you wait,' '' suggests Bozigar.

Be their guardian angel. Children who strike out physically often cannot control their tempers. For example, when another child has a toy he wants, a hot-tempered child is likely to act impulsively and wrestle it away. He may need to be reminded frequently about the rules you've set.

''Be his adjunct ego or guardian angel,'' says William Sobesky, Ph.D., assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center and research psychologist at Children's Hospital, both in Denver. '' When a child's aggression starts to escalate, point out to him what he is doing and give him alternatives. Say, 'In this situation you may feel like hitting, but that's not okay. You can tell me you're angry. You can tell me you feel like hitting, but it's not okay to do it.' ''

Beware the mouth that roars. Don't overlook verbal aggression--it's often the start of something bigger. ''A child can have a mouth that 'pushes a button,' causing a playmate to strike back,'' says Lottie Mendelson. When that happens, be careful not to blame the hitter and allow the instigator to go free. The child who speaks aggressively and starts throwing ''verbal punches'' should also be reprimanded, she notes.

Call a time-out. A cooling-off period is often the most effective way to change bad behavior. Bozigar says younger children should be placed on a chair away from all distractions for two to three minutes, and older children should be sent to their rooms.

''Just don't do it in a punitive way,'' he says. ''Make it clear you're taking this action because you want things to work out and you want everyone to be happy. Say, ' You can't stop hitting, and I want you to have control of that. So I'm going to help you. I'm going to give you time-out for two or three minutes until you're in control on the inside.' ''

Praise good efforts. When children respond in an appropriate way, make sure to reinforce it. ''Tell them, 'I like the way you did that,' '' says Bozigar. Kids respond better to praise that reflects how their behavior makes their parents feel.
''Saying 'good boy' or 'good girl' is often lost on children,'' he says. ''It's better to say, 'It made me feel so great on the inside when I saw you sharing with your little brother instead of hitting him. It made me feel I could trust you with him.' That kind of praise is very meaningful to children. It makes them feel that they've had an impact on you.''

Create scenarios for success. A child who bullies others learns very quickly that physical aggression has only limited success. It may get him the toy he wants or a turn on the swing, but he's likely to find himself friendless and lonely. He may be very motivated to work on other alternatives.

'' You want kids to develop critical thinking skills,'' says Bozigar. First, talk about what happens when the child uses aggression. ''If your child is always beating up other kids at the playground, you can say, ' What happens to you when you do that?' He may say, 'I get into trouble with the playground monitor, the principal calls me into his office and I have detention.' Then you can say, 'That's not a success for you. What can we do to give you a success?' Kids really respond to that.''

Once the child realizes he's getting in trouble, you can start him thinking about possible solutions, Bozigar points out. For example, if he's being aggressive on the playground, you might want to practice different ways of getting involved in activities. Urge him to ask nicely whether he can join in--or to toss a ball back from out-of-bounds until the other kids ask him to play.

Use a scrapbook to scrap bad behavior. With a younger child who's beginning to show signs of aggressiveness, Bozigar recommends that you make up a little storybook with the child as the hero. Using pictures cut from magazines or photographs of the child himself, show situations where the child uses verbal or other problem-solving skills to deal with his frustration. Talk with him about these options. ''Do it at a time when the child is not in the midst of emotional turmoil,'' he says. '' When those emotions are up, it's hard to bring them down.''

Share the fantasy. One technique that is often effective in helping children gain a new perspective on their behavior is to grant in fantasy what you can't in real life, says Bozigar. ''A child who thinks he should have the playground all to himself can have it--in fantasy. Say, 'Okay, for the rest of the week, Tommy is the only one who is allowed on the playground. No one is allowed on the swings but Tommy, and everyone is going to have to stand around and applaud.' ''

Once Tommy sees that his wildest dreams are just that--and funny, to boot--bring him back to earth. ''Say, ' Yeah, that sounds cool, but in real life you have to share the playground. So let's talk about another way we can make this a success for you,' '' says Bozigar.

Use force as the last resort. Forceful restraint should be used only when a child is putting himself or someone else in danger, says Dr. Sobesky. ''If you must use physical restraint, approach the child from behind, pulling his arms down. Wrap your legs around his legs and keep your chin away from his head.''

Be aware that restraint may increase rage in some children. ''But others may find it reassuring that you can control them,'' he says. ''Just make sure you hold your child in a comforting, nonaggressive way so he doesn't feel he's being attacked.''


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ANAL ITCHING

ANAL ITCHING

Strategies to Stop the Scratching

K ristie is dressed in her Sunday best for a visit to Aunt Gert. You're so proud of how sweet she looks . . . until you notice what part of her anatomy she's scratching. Again.

One of the most frequent causes of anal itching in preschoolers is pinworms. (See page 276 for more information on pinworms.) Other common causes include chafing, hemorrhoids and a yeast infection. The irritating itch may also follow a bout of diarrhea, or it may simply be the result of poor hygiene, says Paul M. Fleiss, M.D., a pediatrician, lecturer at the University of California, Los Angeles, School of Public Health and assistant clinical professor of pediatrics at the University of Southern California School of Medicine.

Some of these causes may require a doctor's intervention. But others are more easily remedied. Once a doctor has ruled out anything serious, you can try some of these tips at home to help your child find relief.

MEDICAL ALERT

When to See the Doctor
You should take your child to a doctor for a diagnosis if the anal itching is accompanied by weight loss, diminished appetite or constant stomach upset, says Paul M. Fleiss, M.D., a pediatrician, lecturer at the University of California, Los Angeles, School of Public Health and assistant clinical professor of pediatrics at the University of Southern California School of Medicine. These could be signs of a more serious problem. You'll also need to check with a physician if there's a raw, oozing rash or if there are other symptoms of infection such as fever or nausea.
Pinworms, yeast infections and hemorrhoids are other causes of anal itching that may require a doctor's attention, according to Dr. Fleiss. The doctor can prescribe medication that will reduce the itching and speed your child's recovery from these conditions.

Keep the area dry.
''It's important to keep your child's bottom dry,'' says Dr. Fleiss. Moisture can cause irritation as well as create an ideal environment for yeast infection, he says.

Have your child change his underwear several times a day. ''For a persistent itch, change your child's underpants frequently (three or four times a day), and don't let your child wear them to bed,'' he says.

Take a powder. ''A cornstarch powder may be helpful for keeping the anal area dry,'' says Dr. Fleiss. When you apply it to the child, be sure to shake the powder into your hand and then spread it on his bottom. Don't shake it all over, because it could be irritating if inhaled.

Always come clean. ''Itching could be due to the child's not cleaning himself well,'' says Dr. Fleiss. So teach your child to wipe himself properly. ''Dry toilet paper cannot get the anal area completely clean,'' he points out. But some children can easily learn to clean themselves with moistened toilet paper.

''Show your child how to wet the toilet paper and use it after each bowel movement,'' Dr. Fleiss suggests. ''It's a good idea to bathe after a bowel movement. Or have a supply of moistened wipes near the toilet for him to use,'' he says. Afterward, he should use dry toilet paper to finish wiping.

Serve fiber-rich foods. Hemorrhoids are rarely the cause of anal itching in children. But if your child has been diagnosed with a case of these bulging veins, it's time for some diet changes.

''Be sure your child eats more high-fiber foods such as vegetables, fruits and whole grains and cuts down on low-fiber items such as cake, candy, cookies and potato chips,'' says Dr. Fleiss. ''A low-fiber diet can cause constipation. When a constipated child strains to have a bowel movement, that can result in hemorrhoids or aggravate those already there.'' When increasing dietary fiber, it's also important to see that your child drinks more water and eats more fruits and vegetables, he says.

Sitz 'em down. In a bathtub, dissolve three to four tablespoons of baking soda in a couple of inches of warm water and have your child sit in it for 15 minutes or so, suggests Howard Jeffrey Reinstein, M.D., a pediatrician in Encino, California, and clinical assistant professor of pediatrics at the University of Southern California School of Medicine, Children's Hospital of Los Angeles. ''Sitz baths are very soothing to itchy bottoms, regardless of the cause,'' he says.

Add oatmeal where he sitz. For some extra relief, try putting one packet of Aveeno Bath Treatment containing colloidal oatmeal, a finely powdered form of oatmeal, into your child's bathwater. ''It's especially soothing,'' says Dr. Reinstein.

Smooth on something soothing. Though it's mainly intended for insect bites, Itch-X Gel is an over-the-counter anti-itching medication that can be useful for anal itching, too, says Dr. Reinstein. It's for external use only. He also suggests trying petroleum jelly ( Vaseline) or a soothing over-the-counter ointment such as Desitin to coat and protect the itchy area.

Look out for lingering laundry soap. ''Traces of laundry soap in your child's clothing can sometimes cause an itch,'' says Susan Aronson, M.D., a pediatrician at The Children's Hospital in Philadelphia and clinical professor of pediatrics at the University of Pennsylvania. ''To get the last traces of soap out, put your child's clothes through an extra rinse,'' she says.

Get the softness out. Some kids are also sensitive to fabric softeners, adds Dr. Aronson. If you've been using them in your laundry, stop for a while and see if that reduces the itching.

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BED-WETTING

BED-WETTING

For Sheets like the Sahara

Sally, age four, routinely wakes up in the mornings with a wet bed. Joe is five years older. But even at age nine, he tries to stay awake all night whenever he sleeps over at a friend's house. He's still terrified he will wet the bed in his sleep.

Sally and Joe share a common childhood problem: bed-wetting. About one in five 4 and 5-year olds wet the bed, and as many as one in ten boys still has a problem by age 12. ( For some reason, it's more common in boys than girls.)

''It's not unusual for children not to be dry at night at age four and five, and some of us really don't consider it something that should be treated until a child is at least six,'' says George Sterne, M.D., clinical professor of pediatrics at Tulane University Medical School and a pediatrician in New Orleans.

There may be some kind of physical problem or health condition that's causing your child to wet the bed. If you're concerned about that, you should definitely discuss your child's bed-wetting with a doctor. But usually bed-wetting can be cured without medical intervention, given enough time along with a healthy dose of patience. Here are the techniques the experts recommend.

Rid yourself--and Junior--of guilt. Realize that you're not a bad parent because your child wets the bed, and make it clear to your child that he isn't a bad child because he wets. ''Bed-wetting is a biological problem. It occurs in a child who, during sleep, has not learned bladder-control skills,'' says Barton D. Schmitt, M.D., professor of pediatrics at the University of Colorado School of Medicine, director of consultative services at the Ambulatory Care Center at Children's Hospital of Denver and author of Your Child's Health.

''I think it's so important to tell parents of bed wetters that this is rarely a psychological problem,'' says Dr. Schmitt. ''There's a lot of unnecessary guilt imposed on some very good parents because they see themselves as being somehow to blame.''

MEDICAL ALERT

When to See the Doctor
Bed-wetting is usually a normal, harmless condition of childhood, but there could be a serious physical reason such as a urinary tract infection, diabetes or a physical abnormality.
These are rare, but it's still worth a visit to the pediatrician to rule out such possibilities, says George Sterne, M.D., clinical professor of pediatrics at Tulane University Medical School and a pediatrician in New Orleans. You should always see the pediatrician if your child:
* Complains of abdominal pain, backache or fever.
* Wakes up at night regularly with an intense thirst.
* Wets during the day as well as at night.
* Has pain during urination.
* Has urine with an unpleasant odor.
* Is suddenly wetting again after months of staying dry.
Also, if your child is over age two and shows no sign of bladder control, you should bring this to the attention of your doctor. Some children take longer than others to begin potty training, but your pediatrician should be aware of your child's progress at this age.

Ban punishments. One study found that nearly three-fourths of parents punished their children for bed-wetting. Never punish or scold your child for a wet bed, says Thomas Bartholomew, M.D., a pediatric urologist and assistant professor of surgery and urology at the University of Texas Health Science Center at San Antonio. ''Parents should understand that this is not going to help their child,'' says Dr. Bartholomew. ''I've never met a child who wants to wet the bed.''

Protect with plastic. A zip-up plastic mattress cover should be standard equipment on any bed wetter's bed. It protects the mattress, of course. But also it means there's less of a ''crisis'' when the child wets the bed, Dr. Schmitt points out. Both parents and kids will stay calmer if they know there's not much clean-up to worry about.

Encourage clean-up duties. You should, however, matter-of-factly tell the child he is expected to clean up the wet bed or at least help. ''Even at age four and five a child can take the sheets off the bed and put them in the laundry room,'' says Lottie Mendelson, R.N., a pediatric nurse practitioner in Portland, Oregon, and coauthor of The Complete Book of Parenting. ''It should not be punitive, just an acknowledgment that this is the child's responsibility. It also helps you. That way, you don't feel the child is doing this to you.''

Check out your child's motivation. Before taking active steps to cure bed-wetting, make sure your child wants to stop, says Jeffrey Fogel, M.D., a pediatrician in Fort Washington, Pennsylvania, and staff physician at Chestnut Hill Hospital in Philadelphia. '' When a parent asks me how to cure bed-wetting I ask, 'Does your child want to be dry?' If they say 'no,' I say, ' You can try all you want, but you probably won't be successful.' '' If a child wants to stop, she'll not only cooperate, but her conscious mind will also work on her subconscious to help her awaken at night, explains Dr. Fogel.

Recognize the signs. A child often becomes motivated to stop wetting when it begins to interfere with his social options, says Dr. Bartholomew. When the child starts to refuse invitations to spend the night away from home, or doesn't go to camp because of bed-wetting fears, you can point out the benefits of being able to do these things. Then suggest some ways your child can help himself get through the night with a dry bed.

Pick a good time. Before starting, choose a relatively peaceful period-not, for example, just before an exciting holiday or vacation, advises Cathleen Piazza, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine and chief psychologist of the neurobehavioral unit at Kennedy Krieger Institute in Baltimore. '' You should pick a time when you're not having multiple stressors at work and in the household,'' she says.

Keep bedtimes calm. Lots of rough-housing or even an exciting television program close to bedtime can increase the risk of bed-wetting, says Patrick Holden, M.D., associate professor of psychiatry at the University of Texas Health Science Center. '' When kids are excited, they tend to produce more urine,'' he explains. Instead of letting your child watch television before bedtime, give him a book to read, have a quiet conversation or read a story to him.

Put the child in charge. You want your child to understand from the outset that staying dry at night is his responsibility. That means don't wake
your child at night to take him to the bathroom.

'' Waking the child doesn't teach him anything about bladder control, and it's probably counterproductive,'' says Dr. Schmitt. ''If the child goes to bed thinking his parent is going to wake him up at night, that's teaching the child that the parent is going to take care of his bladder and that he doesn't have to worry about it. Your child has to go to bed just a little bit worried to stay dry.''


Is Your Child Sleeping Enough?
Setting an earlier bedtime for your child may help solve a bed-wetting problem, says Ronald Dahl, M.D., director of the Children's Sleep Evaluation Center at Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic in Pittsburgh and associate professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. A sleep-deprived child may sleep so deeply that the need to urinate doesn't awaken her.
''Increase the total amount of sleep for the child,'' suggests Dr. Dahl. ''Get on a regular schedule with a set bedtime. Often this can have a big effect.''


Reward dry nights. Consistently reward or congratulate your child when she has made it through the night with a dry bed. '' You'll get a lot further if you give positive psychological support such as hugs and warm congratulations,'' says Dr. Bartholomew. Some kids might like happy faces drawn on a calendar or special stickers, says Dr. Piazza. Whatever reinforcement you use, do it first thing in the morning.

Mum's the word. But if your child wakes up with wet sheets, be careful not to grimace or say something like, ''Oh, no, your bed is wet this morning.'' Instead, say nothing, says Dr. Piazza. '' You only want to focus on success,'' she says. ''If we give as much attention to failure as success, we're defeating the purpose.''

Make getting up easy. Some kids are reluctant to leave their beds, and others have been ordered by parents never to get up after they've been tucked in, says Dr. Schmitt. ''So you need to give your kids permission to get up to go to the bathroom. They need a flashlight or a nightlight, and they need to be asked if they want a potty chair next to their bed. Some kids who don't want to go to the bathroom are perfectly willing to use the potty chair and go back to sleep.''

Give your child an alarm clock. If the child has a regular pattern of wetting the bed at the same time every night, furnish an alarm clock and explain how it works, says Barbara Howard, M.D., assistant clinical professor of pediatrics at Duke University Medical Center in Durham, North Carolina. ''The child can set the alarm clock to wake him up 20 minutes to half an hour before he usually wets the bed so he can get up and go to the bathroom,'' she explains.

Encourage a dry run. This is a ''dress-rehearsal'' technique your schoolage child can do during the day. ''I have the child lie in bed, close his eyes, pretend it's the middle of the night and give himself a little pep talk,'' says Dr. Schmitt. ''It goes something like, 'I'm in a deep, deep sleep, my bladder is full, my bladder is starting to feel pressure and is trying to wake me up. It's saying get up before it's too late.' ''

The child should then practice getting up, walking to the bathroom and going to the toilet. ''I have them actually walk from bedroom to bathroom, so they know exactly how many paces it is,'' says Dr. Schmitt.

Avoid caffeine. Caffeine is a diuretic, a substance that encourages urination, explains Dr. Howard. It's in many sodas and in chocolate as well as in coffee and tea. Avoiding these foods and drinks may help your child avoid wetting, she says.

Encourage bladder-control practice. Explain to your child that she can help ''train'' her bladder by practicing during the day. Have your child drink a lot, and then wait as long as she can to go to the bathroom. ''Have her try to wait a little bit longer each time,'' says Dr. Piazza. '' You want to train a child to associate the feeling of having a full bladder with having to go to the bathroom.''

Stream-interruption exercises can also help, says Dr. Schmitt. Have the child begin to urinate and then stop briefly before starting up again. She should try to do this several times each time she urinates. ''Those exercises build up the bladder sphincter,'' says Dr. Schmitt.

Buy a bed alarm. Most experts agree that moisture-activated bed alarms are the most effective treatment for bed-wetting. '' When moisture hits the pad, an alarm goes off and wakes the child,'' explains Dr. Sterne. ''It conditions the child to recognize the sensation and wake up before they have to urinate.'' Alarms are battery-operated, cost around $40 and are available from several companies without a prescription. Ask your pediatrician to recommend a brand or type. Use the alarm until your child is dry every night for one month. In most alarms, wetting triggers a loud sound that awakens the child. A silent, vibrating alarm is also available for children who don't respond to sound.

Dr. Schmitt recommends portable, transistorized alarms that are worn on the body rather than the bell and pad devices. And he says parents shouldn't insist on using the alarm if the child is opposed to it.

Stick with it. Be understanding and patient with your child, and stick with
your efforts to stop the bed-wetting. ''Conditioning requires time,'' says Dr. Bartholomew. He compares it to piano lessons: ''Children might not get any results in the first month or two, but if they continue to practice, they'll be able to improve.''

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Alahumma infa`ni bima `allamtani

wa `allamni ma yanfa`uni!



OH ALLAH! Make useful for me what You taught me and teach me knowledge that will be useful to me!



(Aameen)

Doubt and Certainty

Doubt and Certainty
Adil Salahi | Arab News



One aspect of Islamic worship is that certainty cannot be overruled by doubt. Thus when doubt creeps into a person’s mind concerning some act of worship he has performed or he is in the process of performing, such doubt is discounted. We will take an example from the main act of worship, which is obligatory prayer. It is well-known that before we can offer such a prayer, we have to have performed ablution. Normally an ablution is enough to perform any number of prayers, provided it is not invalidated. The main thing that invalidates ablution is a discharge from one’s genitals, including wind. What happens if someone suspects such a discharge, without being sure?

Someone asked the Prophet (peace be upon him): “Suppose that a person imagines something to have happened during prayer?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “He should not disrupt his prayer unless he has heard or smelled something.” (Related by Al-Bukhari)

Some people are prone to doubting whether their prayers are valid or not. They imagine that they have discharged something, even though they cannot confirm it by sound or smell. They are uneasy about their prayer, fearing that it is invalid. They often stop and exit from their prayer in order to go and have a fresh ablution. The doubt may start again the moment they resume their prayer. If they allow this to happen time after time, they become obsessive about their prayer and its invalidation. They become overburdened with the idea of keeping their ablution valid for even the few minutes that an obligatory prayer takes. Some people may be so troubled with such a thought that they may miss some of their prayer, or may even stop praying.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) recognized this when the man asked him about it. He (peace be upon him) told him that one should continue in his prayer, paying no attention to what he imagines, unless he has heard a sound or smelled something. Thus, the prayer remains valid unless there is material evidence, confirmed by one of our main senses that one’s ablution has become invalid. If he imagines that a discharge has taken place, but he cannot confirm it with either sense, then he should banish the thought from his mind, and continue his prayer, even if this should happen two or more times during the same prayer. When he finishes the prayer, he should attend to his business without giving any thought to whether his prayer was valid or not. When he has done this for a few days, all such thoughts will disappear and he will be approaching his prayers normally.

Scholars have applied the same rulings to other matters. Whenever doubt creeps into our minds regarding any action or situation, then we should not entertain the doubt. We continue to act on what is certain until we can confirm otherwise. Al-Nawawi, a highly prominent scholar of the Shafie school of thought, says: “This rule applies to doubt concerning anything, including whether one has divorced his wife, freed his slave, or whether one’s water or clothes have been contaminated with impurity. No such doubt need be entertained, because the normal status is given an overriding position.” Only when such doubt is confirmed by evidence confirming its having taken place that the original situation becomes invalid.

CONJUNCTIVITIS

CONJUNCTIVITIS

Conjunctivitis refers to an inflammation of the conjunctiva, the thin transparent membrane covering the front of the eye. This is also referred to as having 'sore eyes' and is a very common form of eye trouble. It spreads from person to person through direct Contact. Overcrowding, dirty surroundings and unhealthy living conditions can cause epidemics of this ailment.

Conjunctivitis Symptoms
Eyeball and underside of the eyelids become inflammed
The eyeball and underside of the eyelids become inflammed. At first, the eyes are red and itchy. Later, there may be a watery secretion.
Pus formation
In more serious cases, there is pus formation, which dries up during sleep, making the lashes stick together.

Causes of Conjunctivitis
Bacterial or virus infection or eyestrain
Conjunctivitis results from bacterial or a virus infection or eyestrain. Prolonged work under artificial light and excessive use of the eyes in one way or the other, no doubt, contribute towards the disease.
Catarrhal condition of the system from general toxaemia
Its real cause can be traced to a catarrhal condition of the system resulting from general toxaemia due to dietetic errors, and a faulty style of living. The patient generally suffers from colds or other ailments indicative of a general catarrhal condition.

Home Remedies for Conjunctivitis
Conjunctivitis treatment using Vegetable Juices
Raw juices of certain vegetables, especially carrots and spinach, have been found valuable in conjunctivitis. The combined juices of these two vegetables have proved very effective. In this combination, 200 ml of spinach juice should be mixed with 300 ml of carrot juice. Raw parsley (prajmoda) juice-200 ml, mixed with 300 ml of carrot juice has also been found beneficial in the treatment of this disease.
Conjunctivitis treatment using Indian Gooseberry
The juice of the Indian gooseberry, mixed with honey, is useful in conjunctivitis. A cup of this juice should be taken mixed with two teaspoons of honey twice daily in treating this condition.
Conjunctivitis treatment using Vitamins
Vitamins A and B2 have proved useful in conjunctivitis. The patient should take liberal quantities of natural foods rich in these two vitamins. Foods rich in vitamin A are wholemilk, curds, butter, carrots, pumpkin, green leafy vegetables, tomatoes, mangoes, and papaya. Foods rich in vitamin B2 are green leafy vegetables, milk, almonds, citrus fruits, bananas, and tomatoes.
Conjunctivitis treatment using Coriander
A decoction prepared with a handful of dried coriander in 60 ml of water is an excellent eye-wash in conjunctivitis. It is said to relieve burning and reduces pain and swelling. This decoction should, however, be sparingly used by persons suffering from bronchial asthma and chronic bronchitis.

Conjunctivitis diet
Take fresh fruit diet, avoid bananas
The best way to commence treatment for conjunctivitis is to adopt an exclusive fresh fruit diet for a week. In this regimen, the three meals a day should consist of fresh, juicy seasonal fruits. Bananas should, however, not be taken. Those with acute conjunctivitis should undertake a juice fast for three or four days.
All-fruit diet followed by a restricted diet of chapatis, nuts etc
The short juice fast may be followed by an all-fruit diet for a further seven days. Thereafter, the patient may adopt a restricted diet, consisting of fresh fruits, raw mixed-vegetable salad, wholemeal bread or chapatis and steamed vegetables, and nuts.
Avoid starchy and sugary foods, refined cereals, strong tea ans coffee
The patient should avoid an excessive intake of starchy and sugary foods in the form of white bread, refined cereals, potatoes, puddings, sugar, jams, confectionery, meats, fatty foods, strong tea and coffee, too much salt, condiments, and sauces which cause a general catarrhal condition as well as conjunctivitis.

Other Conjunctivitis treatments
Warm-water enema
Those taking a juice fast for the first three or four days of the treatment should take a warm-water enema daily during the fast.
Cold water fomentation of the eyes
A cold water fomentation of the eyes provides almost immediate relief. The procedure is to fold a small hand towel, saturate it with cold water, squeeze out excess water and place the towel gently over both the eyes. It should be covered with a piece of warm cloth to retain the temperature. The process should be repeated as soon as the foment becomes warm. Fomentation should be done for an hour. The eyes should then be covered with a dry towel, and the patient should lie back and relax. The damaged eye tissues will quickly return to normal. This treatment should be repeated every night for a week, even though the problem may clear up with the first treatment itself.
Relaxing, strengthening of eyes by doing eye exercises
The patient should also adopt various methods of relaxing and strengthening the eyes. These include moving the eyes gently up and down, from side to side and in a circle - clockwise and anticlockwise; rotating the neck in circles and semicircles; and briskly moving the shoulders clockwise and anticlockwise. Palming is highly beneficial in removing strain and relaxing the eyes and its surrounding tissues. The procedure is as follows: sit in a comfortable position and relax with your eyes closed. Cover the eyes with the palms, right palm over the right eye and the left over the left eye. Do not press on the eye balls. Then allow your elbows to drop to your knees, which should be fairly close together.

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Understanding the SYMPTOMS OF POOR BLOOD CIRCULATION

Understanding the SYMPTOMS OF POOR BLOOD CIRCULATION

Circulatory problems do not begin in a day. In other words, you could call the heart a very patient organ, which can take years of abuse and when it cannot take it anymore, breaks out in to early symptoms.

At the outset, we need to remember that poor circulation is an outcome of certain lifestyle choices which we make which are detrimental to our health. Coupled with these are factors like imbalanced diet and lack of physical exercise. All these factors lead to fatty deposits on the arterial walls, which when hardened are called plaques. These plaques then block or create obstructions to the smooth passage of blood to and from the heart.

Plaques take a long time to be formed; that is the reason, we find circulatory problems affecting the elderly more often than they affect children. Our food habits also add to an unhealthy build up of cholesterol which may increase the viscosity of the blood, which again creates anomaly in the smooth flow through arteries and veins.
Since the circulatory system covers our entire body, the problems can also be manifested in numerous ways. For instance:

Brain - Our brain receives 20% of the blood circulated in our body. With a drop in the flow, our brain functions sub-optimally, resulting in feeling lethargic, loss of memory, lack of mental clarity, etc. Frequent unexplained headaches and sudden attacks of dizziness are also seen as symptoms of poor blood circulation to the brain.

Heart - When poor blood circulation affects the heart, the symptoms would be chest pain, high blood pressure and rise in the level of cholesterol. Difficulty in performing any common task like climbing stairs, walking a stretch could make you very tired and breathless.

Liver - When you suffer from lack of appetite or experience sudden weight loss and your skin looks luster-less, it is quite possible that your liver is getting 'sluggish' and these are the early symptoms of poor blood circulation to the liver.

Kidneys - This organ plays an important role in regulating and monitoring our blood pressure other than eliminating the waste and excess water from our bodies. When poor blood circulation affects the kidneys, we notice swelling of hands, feet and ankles, rise in blood pressure, altered heart rate and we feel tired all the time.

Limbs - Poor blood circulation can have serious impact on our arms and legs. We can experience sudden numbness of our hands, feet and fingers or suffer painful leg cramps. Symptoms of serious blood circulation problems can be varicose veins or a condition called cyanosis - which is when part of our skin turns blue or black due to lack of adequate oxygen to the concerned tissues.

Sex Drive - Poor blood circulation can affect our reproductive organs as well. The symptoms are lack of sex drive and fatigue. Symptoms would also include lack of vitality also. Serious blood circulation problems could make one impotent also.



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